My name is Natalie and my husband is Dave – we have four IVF babies: Cooper is 4 and the triplets are 1 Hudson (singleton) and Parker and Raegan (identical twins). I will never forget the day we went in for an “extra” ultrasound because I was spotting, after having found out the previous week that we were pregnant with twins. The doctor checked everything closely and told us that everything looked just fine, there was no concern regarding the bleeding, but that one of our embryos split. Shock doesn’t even describe the way we felt! After having such a long road to get to the point we were at, we had so many emotions – we wanted to be excited to be completing our family, but were so nervous about the risks and possible complications.
Needless to say, the triplet pregnancy was as uneventful and smooth as I imagine a triplet pregnancy could go – I carried to 34 weeks, without bedrest, and since sitting and laying down was so uncomfortable for me, I kept myself busy and out and about until the very end. I was measuring 52 weeks pregnant by the end, so the looks and comments from strangers were non-stop. I got the typical, “you look like you’re about to pop!”, when are you due?”, “are you sure there’s only one in there?” And each of those responses warranted a full explanation from me.
If I could give any advice to other parents, it would be to go with the flow, don’t stress, and be flexible. I am a total type A personality, would call myself a bit of a perfectionist and do not find it easy to give up control. Parenting has taught me so much about letting all of that go to an extent. By being calm and flexible with your children, you are setting yourself (and them) up for a much easier parenting experience. I let go of so much more than I ever thought I would, and because of it, I have four healthy and happy kids who are also flexible and able to go with the flow.